Regardless of how “honest” you think you want to be on that first date, there are some things you shouldn’t tell the person you’re dating right out of the gate, because they’re really not important, and some things are best left unsaid.
You wouldn’t want to turn off the person you’re dating to the point where they decide that they’re really not interested in you after all!
So, here are some great tips that will help you to not discuss certain topics with your date that you don’t need to:
1) Never discuss with your date your past boyfriend, girlfriend or former spouse.
This is an absolute, definite no, no!
No one wants to hear about how great or bad your past girlfriend, boyfriend, or former spouse was! Don’t dwell on the past. Stay focused on the future, and what it just might bring.
2) Don’t talk about how much money you have, or don’t have.
Talking about your financial status, good or bad can come across to your date as your way of telling them that money is the most important thing to you in a relationship. This could be the kiss of death for this date. Keep it to yourself.
3) Gossiping about your past dates, friends and family is not a good idea.
It’s really not important that you discuss this kind of stuff with your date. Some people see others who gossip as busy bodies who have to be involved in everyone else’s business. I know that when/if my dates start up with the gossip, my ears automatically shut off. They’re usually talking about someone that I don’t know, which is kind of like looking at photos of people I’m not associated with. It’s just a turn off. Don’t do it.
4) Don’t discuss your past intimate relationships.
This is a definite “Nope”.
It’ll likely make your date uncomfortable and put them in an awkward position as to what you may or may not expect from them. Steer far away from this topic. Don’t even talk about it. I don’t care HOW much you’ve had to drink. It’s completely off limits.
5) If you cheated on your previous date, don’t even think about talking about it in your new relationship!
No one wants to hear about how big a dog you were in a past relationship.
If she straight up asks the question, you should be honest, but be prepared for her to bounce.
Your date could decide that they don’t want to risk being cheated on (and rightly so) since you have a history of doing it. If you do have a history of cheating, remember you told them so.
6) Anything else that you believe wouldn’t be something important that you’d want to tell your date about you.
Don’t bring it up, if it’s not important!
You know what you should and shouldn’t tell your date. After all, do you want to keep dating the person you’re with, or do you want to keep looking for someone new? Remember, some things are best left unsaid if the information isn’t important to the relationship.